Shanink's blog

only as tolerable as you make it

While I may not be the most patient person ever, it is up to me how I tolerate my surroundings. Whether I bring them on myself or not. With that said, I continue to pursue taking one thing at a time. I have an issue with something, I deal with it, right then and there. Either out loud or silently. I have learned that holding onto something or pushing it in the back creates more stress for myself and possibly those around me. I have been astounded at the results of dealing with what I have on my plate just one bite at a time. Which can also work for eating healthier...take small bites and chew slowly, savoring the flavor, etc. It's just finally sinking in how hard I am on myself and how much easier I could/can make it. It's only as stressful or intolerable as I make it. I can either freak out and stress for days or accept what is happening and deal with it in the moment; slowly and maturely. In the end, the result can only be good and if bad...it's just another lesson I've learned in life.

Lately, it has been not tolerating and not being able to control my surroundings. I have to accept that things won't go as planned or as I'd like them to go. Although my intentions are good and the purpose is not what people are seeing or accepting...it's not my fault and I need to learn to let it go.

If any resolutions are made by me, this would be at the top of my list. I've vowed to take one thing at a time a while back and have succeeded maybe 50% of the time and have seen awesome results because of it.

To the new year and to making life easier to tolerate.

online socialite at best

That describes me exactly. Not ever have I considered myself a socialite and maybe that's why I've cowered behind a computer screen for my career. I rarely have to speak on the phone or talk to anyone in person. What I'm getting at is I've submersed myself in socializing sites online. That being Twitter, MySpace, Facebook, Vox, etc. I'm having trouble keeping track and updating and wish there was just a "hub" website I could gather all my accounts to and have all my links right there in front of me so I can run down the line. Is there such a site? Can you comment back and let me know? It's really almost ridiculous how crazy you can get with accounts, passwords, etc. I look forward to keeping my life up to date online as that is what I do. I'm online. Period.

Eating My Veggies

I am soooooo good! :)

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I Know I'm Short

But c'mon! This is my view and I had to get on my tippy ties to get my fave cereal, Smart Start. It was worth it.

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Trouble Kitty!

What the heck is she doing?! All I gotta say is that she came down bringin' dust with her! Silly kitty, lolz!

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Chicken!

For our alrfedo pasta. Friday night din din. :)

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stress

How many of these qualities exist in your life?

1. Over-planning each day. Do you feel the need to stick to a strict schedule? Do you live in fear of falling behind or overlooking a task?
    
2. Doing several things at once. With too much to do and not enough time, it’s easy to think that “efficient” means doing everything at once. He who chases two rabbits catches neither.
    
3. Extreme need to win. Do you feel like a failure if you don’t come out on top—even when the only competition is your own expectations?
    
4. Excessive desire for advancement. Highly stressed people need confirmation from outside sources that they’re doing okay and performing well.
    
5. Inability to relax without feeling guilty. Do your weekends become opportunities for “accomplishment” and “getting something done.”
    
6. Impatience with delays. When you’re under pressure, everything in life takes on urgency and the additional burdens to get everything done as fast as possible.
    
7. Overcommittment. Are you chronically late or forgetful of commitments? Does your schedule cause problems in personal or professional relationships?
    
8. Chronic urgency. See #6. Now!
    
9. Highly competitive drive. Have you forgotten what it’s like to have fun for fun’s sake? Have you “grown up” so much that playtime actually causes you anxiety? 
    
10. Compulsion to overwork. Is your office more familiar to you than your backyard? Do you find yourself missing out on what you might otherwise deem “meaningful”?

I'd sadly say, a lot of these are exactly like me. It's interesting, the article also says how dealing with this stress is also stress in itself. So, how do we cope? How are we to not stress or reduce the stress? We do have to deal with it. I'd say more than half of these are because of my job. Do we just accept it? How do you accept stress? It's amazing the effects stress has on the body and on us daily. How much easier life would be without it...but then boring too? Some people like stress...it challenges them. I enjoy a small bit but I'm learning to accept a few of these things in the list. I have my ways to get past them or slide through those bad times. You almost have to ignore how you feel to get past it without having the worst effect.

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Went for a 40min. walk yesterday with a friend. Felt good to get back up and start exercising again...back at it!

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UPDATE: talked about in prev. post. Here's the picture of Rodney's nephew playing with his birthday balloons. LOL.

yah! yah! yah! yah!

The Extended Faux-hawk!

Sick, sick and sick. Lovely time of year. I was doing so well...everyone in the office around me had gotten sick but me. Then I must have jinxed myself. Ran myself a fever of 102, chills, aches, coughing and now sore throat and more coughing. But, I'm back at work. Took two sicks days and one last week so I knew I couldn't take any more time off. My body was feeling up to it but not my throat. I'll survive!

This weekend was good. Stayed in Friday but went to Rodney's nephew's birthday Saturday. First up, his haircut was at 12:30, now he's sportin' the sweet euro-style "extended faux-hawk" (see pic below). I didn't notice until he walked over to pay and turned to his side...I loved it and gave kudos to the stylist, who was also displaying the same do. Fun, fun.

Then to his dad's. Hung out with the fam all day, while his nephew just couldn't get enough of his birthday balloons (he turned the nasty 2). "Yah yah yah yah..." was all he could yell, jumping up and down getting tangled in 4 latex balloons...hilarious. Rodney got a picture on his cell phone. I should have him send it to me so I can post. Then we went out to dinner at about 6pm with his brother, sister-in-law, sister and brother-in-law. Went to a Famous Dave's. I'm not one for BBQ so I got a salad with chicken. I know, sounds boring but it was yummy!

Afterwards, we went to Upstream and shot some pool and I had me some margaritas in honor of not having kids (his siblings each have 2 and we just spend almost 6 hours with them). I always joke about him wanting kids...he denies it after being around his nephews and nieces. LOL!

Sunday was blah. Didn't do much. Which was nice...but then (duh, duh, duuuuuh) Monday rolled around and fever ensued...I'd rather not go into detail about my past couple days...although, somehow I did get out earlier in the afternoon to get my oil changed...brought the sig. other so I could lean on him in the waiting room.
 

Extended Fauxhawk

one at a time

my "one at a time" challenge hasn't been easy the past couple days. there are multiple things still going on and some deadlines are approaching fast. i'm also stuck at work on a design and it's making things worse or am i just making it worse by thinking that? anyways...i became a member at sparkpeople.com to get help losing a few extra poundage before the summer. my goal: to feel confident in a bathing suit, which i have not worn in prob. over 8-9 years. there are some really inspiring articles and people in there. really...amazing. even if you're not trying to lose weight it's a great resource for healthy living and keeping your active lifestyle. plus, if you read through posts, you could share your story on what you're lifestyle is like, how you view food, what your work outs are, etc.

i read an article this morning and the ending really struck me personally. it talks about how life is ever evolving, that things pass and you should treat each day like it is its own to help achieve further success. once it passes, it's gone, you can't dwell on it anymore because it's over with. deal with things one at a time. do it, it's done, it's in the past, move on. i love this theory and i truly want to live by it. why is it so difficult? why do we worry about the past? or is it just me? how do you stomp forward with a fresh approach? because, ultimately, the reward and the feeling about moving forward and being successful is so great...I really think these words are something to live by.

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Above all, don’t live with regrets. Approach life with perseverance and dedication to the things that matter most to you. Success is never easy. It remains up to you whether you will give up, or fight through the tough battles to earn whatever it is you want.

A fragment of a poem by Ralph Waldo Emerson is telling:

"Finish each day
And be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and
Absurdities have crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can."

Move on with your life. Keep reaching for your goals and you will achieve them. One minor setback is nothing if you really want something and are willing to work for it.
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QotD: Since I HAD to Pick Something...

What aspect of your personality could use a little work?

Wow! I have so many...lol. I guess if I had to pick one it'd be the social aspect. I'm far, far from being social. I hate being around people. Hahaha...I actually am an introvert so I suppose that would make sense that I'm not fancy on being a social person. Something I definitely could work on.